Friday, September 12, 2008
In theory, the birth plan is a fabulous idea. It sounds ideal and logical and wise. What could make more sense than putting all your preferences and intentions down on paper to let the world know? Isn't it best to make a commitment and share that with your medical provider?
When a birth plan works out, it's a great story. I've read birth stories of women who had very specific desires for their birth experience and, because of their plan and because they found a like-minded medical provider, they carried it out to a T. I'm left in awe of these women and so encouraged!
Unfortunately, more often, I hear stories from heartbroken women who were so very determined to "do it naturally", or "avoid any stitches", or "deliver in water", or "have daddy catch the baby", or "never, ever have a C-section"... and it just didn't happen that way. Ask me about my vehement anti-C-section philosophy.. and then go read C's birth story. Hmm.
Why do we have to measure ourselves against a "birth plan yardstick"? Isn't it better to go in with an open mind? By all means, have an idea how you'd like the birth to play out. Just don't get yourself so incredibly hung up on how every little detail goes down.
At the end of the day, going "drug-free" or without induction does not make you a hero...
Bringing a new, precious life into the world makes you a hero. However that life got here.