Friday, February 6, 2009

Realizing They Really ARE Listening

One of the things that makes me sad about today's society is the steady disappearance of simple manners. It seems like so many parents' expectations have just become so very low that "please", "thank you", and "excuse me" are becoming archaic expressions. Many children I know are not expected to write thank you notes. Many have poor phone etiquette. Not only are too many people not teaching their children good manners, they're also not demonstrating them.

Because that's where it starts.

We cannot expect our children to readily adopt polite speech and behaviors if we're not modeling them consistently. If I don't thank my husband regularly in their presence... if he doesn't excuse himself from the table... if we don't say "please" before asking our children to do something... well, then we can't act surprised when their manners are lacking at the next family gathering.

And so we make sure we're consistent. We make sure they actually hear and see what politeness looks like on a daily basis. We are kind to each other. We try to be thoughtful. We correct gently when needed, but mostly we just keep on demonstrating.

And the result?

After receiving four painful shots without a whimper, my four-year old looked the nurses straight in the eye and said...

"Thank you."

Realizing your efforts have paid off? That's a Finer Thing in Life.

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Amy @ Finer Things said...

Such good reminders, and it is heartwarming to hear about your boy thanking his nurse. Too cute. ;-)

Sherry said...

I'm appalled sometimes at manners not just of children but of adults, too. :( Ugh! We teach our children to use manners and show respect with "ma'am" or "sir". It is definitely encouraging to hear when others say how polite your children are. Too cute on his thanking the nurse. LOL!

Carrie said...

How CUUUUTE! And I can't emphasize how heartily I agree with you!

My 16 month old is required to sign please when she asks for something and says thank you already! I don't think she quite understands it all, but I know it will sink in when she's older.

Thanks for stopping by to visit! And I do apples and sharp cheddar also. I think we're the normal ones and everyone else is weird! " )

CountryMama@The Cozy Country Home said...

AMEN!! I'm with you on this one! With moms like all of us maybe we can change this world!! Like Gandhi said..."Be the change you want to see in the world."

Heather Benza said...

what a little sweetie!